Loving Relationships

Human relationships are complex. Our thoughts differ from one person to another, and sometimes you might think you are on the same page with someone, only to realise later that you were not. The beauty of relationships is in knowing that unless you communicate your thoughts and views, they will not be known, and applying that knowledge. I have realised that the reason why parents and their children seem not to get along sometimes is because each wants to be understood, but no one says anything. When they speak, they shout and by doing that they make the person they think they are communicating to shut their ears.

What we need to do in order to maintain good healthy relationships is to continually talk about our thoughts and views to each other, we must listen attentively to one another and not expect to think the same way. When we understand that we are different and we are sincere with one another, a bond develops which will keep you close even through trying times.

What causes people to feel hurt by their loved ones is because there is no trust. if you trust that someone would not want to hurt you intentionally, when they do hurt you, you forgive easily, give them a chance to tell you their views and tell them why you are hurt. This works both ways but once you understand how to have good relationships, practice it and you will see it rub off on the people around you. It is very tempting to get upset and conclude that you are not loved or cared for just because of something someone did, but resist that temptation and sober up. Ask questions if you don't understand something, rather than jumping to assumptions. And if you are the one on the wrong, express your repentance and love, don't shy away and leave the other person feeling like you don't even care. Basically, be proactive in your relationships and let love reign.

I have learnt these things from not one experience but many experiences. Family members in particular take each other for granted and tend to think that everything is fine if one keeps out of everyone's way and they stay out theirs, but communication means sharing yourself with the next person and allowing them to share themselves with you. It means sometimes listening to your sister talk about that relationship of hers that you do not support in the first place, and talking about what you truly feel. Its OK to be strong, but you always need a place where you know you are not expected to be perfect. Make the most of it and forgive as you too will need to be forgiven at some point.